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Now I'm waiting for the article

"Is spanking your wife good or bad for her?"

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Controlled, limited punishment followed by reassurance is a completely different thing than blows from a parent or pet owner who is enraged or out-of-control.

In a survey they may look similar. From the perspective of a child. however, the first is an unpleasant incident with a discernable and avoidable cause. The second threatens the child's basic sense of self and safety with its caregivers and the world at large.

The research on spanking is contradictory and confusing because the physical act is almost a red herring. What matters is how it is perceived and processed. Is it simply an unpleasant ripple in a secure and loving relationship, or is the parent threatening the child's very sense of self as a loved being in the world?

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