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Jorge Antonio's avatar

Now I'm waiting for the article

"Is spanking your wife good or bad for her?"

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Extreme abuse is awful, is relatively common, and very hard to detect.

This is why mainstream advice is to not spank your child at all. A lot of research is guided by the logic above, and not the other way around.

My own experience (n=3) is that:

1) children in identical environments vary massively in their behaviour

2) there is a sweet spot where occasional, brief spanking can have an effect

3) once you start, spanking children comes very easily and should you need to resist the urge in the large majority of cases

4) it’s only effective for a child over 3 and under 6. It’s a short window.

5) your children will remember the spanking but not the behaviour that precipitated it

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