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Jorge Antonio's avatar

Now I'm waiting for the article

"Is spanking your wife good or bad for her?"

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Heather Oleson's avatar

It makes sense to me that bad kids are more likely to get spanked. I've seen this in my friend's kids, it is so much easier to parent an otherwise good kid, but it's the ones who just won't listen and continue to behave in negative ways that are more likely to get spanked.

I'm also skeptical of claims by neurotic leftists that they were traumatized by being spanked as a kid for several reasons: 1) they're looking at the situation from the perspective of an adult, not a misbehaving child 2) Memory is constructive, so it seems to me that if you didn't like your parents for some reason, you'd be picking out instances where they did you wrong and potentially blowing them out of proportion 3) these same people tend to be highly neurotic and prone to negative emotion, and likely overemphasize how traumatized they are by any specific incident. To get a clearer sense of spanking/life outcomes it seems you'd want to know how many otherwise normal, functioning adults were spanked as kids.

I will also say as a professional horse trainer that punishment definitely has a place although a small one. I think the bigger issue is clarity about pressure and release cues, but well-timed and clear punishment can often extinguish a "bad" behavior in only a handful of iterations. It's considered unethical by many in the horse world nowadays, but it seems to me that if it cures a potentially dangerous problem and enables the horse to go on being a functional member of human society it's worth it. I will say I've seen far more difficult horses that were raised by overly nurturing amateur ladies with poor boundaries that I've ever seen by tougher trainers. Horses respond very poorly to lack of clarity and overly "nice" interactions with humans, particularly when they're young and still learning how to behave in a human environment.

I will add that we're breeding horses in such a way that they are easier and easier to handle and train. It is well known and accepted in the horse world that this behavior is largely genetic, knowledgeable horse people will seek out bloodlines known for producing certain characteristics that they desire, whether it's speed, size, or in this case temperament.

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